Life

Pack Your Bags

So, we arrived in Seoul a couple days ago.  (For all my blog followers:  We’ll be living in Seoul for the next couple years due to Derrick’s job.)  The flight was brutal (6-hour delay–when you’re traveling with two toddlers, that feels like a lifetime!).  We’ve been living in hotels for the past two weeks (thankfully, we’re moving into our apartment tomorrow!) and these eBags packing cubes are fantastic.  

Up until this past trip, my usual method of packing has been rolling up all of our clothes and putting them into clear trash bags.  The reason I’ve done it this way is because I have a theory–the more TSA/luggage handlers can see (at arm’s length), the less likely they are to touch/manhandle your things (goodness knows where their disgusting gloves have been!).  And, being the germaphobe that I am, I refuse to use the dressers in hotels–we keep everything in our suitcases (with the exception of our toiletries).  The problem with this is that every time we grab something out of the suitcases, things get unrolled and jumbled up.  If you’re on a 2-day trip, that’s not a big deal.  But any longer than that (and if you’re a family of four), the disorganization becomes ridiculous. 

Well, color-coded packing cubes to the rescue.  With the four of us, each person was assigned a color.  And with the see-through mesh, it makes it easy to see the contents of each cube.  These things were a godsend–they helped keep us well-organized and, hopefully, will help you, too! 

Mommy Time Savers

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Happy and Healthy New Year!  As a new mommy of two, I’ve learned quite a lot this past year and my favorite thing to ask myself has been, “How will this save me time (and energy)?”  So, in the spirit of new year’s resolutions, here are my top mommy time savers:

(1)  Electric Pressure Cooker–This thing is amazing and I don’t know what I would ever do without it.  I use it primarily for meats, stews, and soups.  A dish that would ordinarily take at least a couple hours to make with my standing at the stove (what mother has time for that?) now takes an hour with my not even being in the kitchen.  I just toss everything into the pot, push a button, and go about my day.

(2)  Rice Cooker–I adore my rice cooker and use it just about every day.  Many people don’t realize that you can do quite a lot with a good rice cooker.  Not only do I use it to make rice, I also use it to steam vegetables (as a matter of fact, since I use it primarily to cook our veggies, I often call it “the steamer”).  And, like the electric pressure cooker, you set the timer and you’re free as a bird.

(3)  Grocery Delivery Service–Depending on where you live, delivery fees can range from reasonable to pricey.  It all comes down to how much your time is worth.  Being parents of a 2-year-old and 6-month-old, Derrick and I rely heavily on this service.  Sure, we’ll occasionally do the shop ourselves (if we forget to add on a few items to our weekly delivery) but we have the same reaction after every trip:  “Geez, that took a whole hour?” (if one of us goes to the store) or “We are NOT going to forget to put this on the list next week!” (if the entire family goes–and, yes, it takes longer for us to get the kids ready to go out than the time we spend at the grocery store)

(4)  Product Subscriptions–If you use any skincare products, I highly recommend this.  Many online stores offer a subscription service where they’ll send your products to you at regular intervals.  This not only saves you time but helps you to avoid the annoying situation of being in the shower and realizing all of a sudden that you’re out of your favorite facial scrub.

(5)  USPS Package Pickup–Because we do most of our non-grocery-related shopping online, we also make quite a few returns via mail.  If you’re like us, here’s a tip:  you’re eligible for free USPS pickup service if you’re mailing at least one Priority Mail package.  Just schedule your pickup online at www.usps.com.

(6)  Multiple Stations–Our home has two levels and when we brought our baby girl home, we decided that we needed at least one diaper changing station on each level to save us the hassle of running up and down the stairs with every diaper change (and if you’re parents of two or multiples under the age of 2, you understand the value of this).  So, we converted one of our loveseats into a changing station complete with a diaper pad, a month’s supply of diapers/wipes/baby powder, and a diaper pail.  To protect the loveseat, we draped it with flat bed sheet (but you can also use a sofa slip cover).  The key takeaway here is to have at least a couple “stations” for something you do often during the course of the day easily accessible to you (because minutes add up to hours and hours add up to days!).

(7)  One Size Ahead–If you have small children, you know that shopping ahead can save you the aggravation of impulse buying and/or having your child(ren) go without something for a certain period of time (and when you have kids, two days without gloves in the winter can seem like an eternity!).  This is why I always try to buy at least one size ahead for my children.  And it’s a great system.

(8)  Cook in Bulk and Freeze–This is quite common and self-explanatory.

(9)  No Holiday Cards–Before we had kids, I was the stationery queen.  Cards for everyone and for every occasion.  No more.  Other than handwritten thank-you and sympathy notes, we now use e-mail and social media to send birthday/congratulatory/holiday greetings via e-cards.

Hope you’ve found these tips to be useful–please feel free to share this post to anyone and everyone who would find it helpful!

Daughter


The blood ran so fast

How long would it last?

Rushed to the hospital

Hope little by little

Then you out you came

And I cried your name

Esther, the Queen

My pretty little bean

Soon you shall be

An admirable lady

Virginia 2.0

Into a woman you will grow

You’ll avoid all my mistakes

Not to mention headaches

You’ll steer clear of bullshit

Tell jerks to go suck it

Know life is too short

To hang with dolt sorts

But like me, you’ll find

A man who is kind

With whom you’ll have children

In a loving pavilion

And have grandchildren galore

What a life to adore

And remember your dear mother 

Who loved you like no other

Father’s Day


When I was single and alone

“Another exhausting day,” I’d groan
Meaningless words and nightlife

No matter the people in my life
I was a hole filled with nothing

Not knowing what was coming
Until the day we met

How could I forget
From that time on

(Boy, how time has gone!)
With you, I became half filled

Children, I became fulfilled
Empty hole I once was yearning 

Now a nest with chicks chirping
Thanks to you times a million

The father of my children

Perfume Divorce 


I’m contemplating on leaving her.  She and I were high school sweethearts (met her at the tender age of 16).  At the time, she was voluptuous, glamorous, worldly, and oh so feminine.  We traveled the world together, went through great times, tough times, scary times, three bad jobs, one good job, two pregnancies, two beautiful kids, and here we are today.  

Now, I find her a bit stale and sweet at the same time (is that honeysuckle I smell?  I don’t think I’ve ever been a honeysuckle [or anything that smells sweet] person).  Clingy.  And generic.  There’s no “there there” anymore.  Perhaps, I’m the one who’s changed–I read somewhere that our skin’s pH (which helps determine how perfume smells on our skin) changes as we age.  Could my skin be having a mid-life crisis (nevermind the wisps of lines that seem to have appeared out of nowhere)?  In any event, I’ve started having dalliances here and there (just samples sent from Saks, Jo Malone, and Kat Burki).  Nothing serious.  Everything smells so one-dimensional these days.  That’s the younger generation for you.  Last night, I spotted a couple potential dates online:  “Ikat Jasmine” and “Iris Meadow”.  They sound young, fun, and sexy.  I opted for the standard shipping option (which usually takes about a week for delivery).  I’m desirous but not enough to pay for overnight shipping.  Besides, anticipation makes for greater excitment.  More shall be revealed soon…

Death of REDbird

In the process of preparing for our trip to Tokyo, I discovered the Target Prepaid REDCard from Jared at ThiftyTraveler.com.  Apparently, this reloadable card has bill pay features that allow one to pay bills that typically require check payments.  Translation (for credit card point lovers):  you can now pay your mortgage and utility bills using this card and earn points that you otherwise would have left on the table! 

But there’s a catch–in an effort to close this loophole to discourage “churning”, as of May 6, Target no longer accepts credit card loads for its Prepaid REDCard.  However, card holders may still load via gift cards that have PINs (which will be processed as debit cards).  In other words, there’s now an extra step.  You’d have to buy a VISA gift card (that has a PIN), go to a Target store in person, and then load the REDCard (and likely have to “split tender” the transaction).  More on this at ThriftyTraveler.com.  Also, FrequentMiler has an excellent site on how to find a REDCard as not all states have them.  For most people, it’s probably too much work.  But if you’re a stay-at-home mom who goes to Target regularly for baby stuff, anyway, this is worth the extra ten minutes.

Only Skin Deep?

I have a confession: since I’ve had Max (a little over eight months ago), I’ve not been wearing sunscreen (or makeup, for that matter).  The reason?  I don’t want to expose my baby to harmful chemicals.  Of course, the chemicals in question aren’t harmful to me but with Max being so young, I don’t want to take any chances of his skin absorbing anything that could have adverse effects on his health.  And so my quest for more “natural” skincare begins…