Life

Father’s Day


When I was single and alone

“Another exhausting day,” I’d groan
Meaningless words and nightlife

No matter the people in my life
I was a hole filled with nothing

Not knowing what was coming
Until the day we met

How could I forget
From that time on

(Boy, how time has gone!)
With you, I became half filled

Children, I became fulfilled
Empty hole I once was yearning 

Now a nest with chicks chirping
Thanks to you times a million

The father of my children

Perfume Divorce 


I’m contemplating on leaving her.  She and I were high school sweethearts (met her at the tender age of 16).  At the time, she was voluptuous, glamorous, worldly, and oh so feminine.  We traveled the world together, went through great times, tough times, scary times, three bad jobs, one good job, two pregnancies, two beautiful kids, and here we are today.  

Now, I find her a bit stale and sweet at the same time (is that honeysuckle I smell?  I don’t think I’ve ever been a honeysuckle [or anything that smells sweet] person).  Clingy.  And generic.  There’s no “there there” anymore.  Perhaps, I’m the one who’s changed–I read somewhere that our skin’s pH (which helps determine how perfume smells on our skin) changes as we age.  Could my skin be having a mid-life crisis (nevermind the wisps of lines that seem to have appeared out of nowhere)?  In any event, I’ve started having dalliances here and there (just samples sent from Saks, Jo Malone, and Kat Burki).  Nothing serious.  Everything smells so one-dimensional these days.  That’s the younger generation for you.  Last night, I spotted a couple potential dates online:  “Ikat Jasmine” and “Iris Meadow”.  They sound young, fun, and sexy.  I opted for the standard shipping option (which usually takes about a week for delivery).  I’m desirous but not enough to pay for overnight shipping.  Besides, anticipation makes for greater excitment.  More shall be revealed soon…

Death of REDbird

In the process of preparing for our trip to Tokyo, I discovered the Target Prepaid REDCard from Jared at ThiftyTraveler.com.  Apparently, this reloadable card has bill pay features that allow one to pay bills that typically require check payments.  Translation (for credit card point lovers):  you can now pay your mortgage and utility bills using this card and earn points that you otherwise would have left on the table! 

But there’s a catch–in an effort to close this loophole to discourage “churning”, as of May 6, Target no longer accepts credit card loads for its Prepaid REDCard.  However, card holders may still load via gift cards that have PINs (which will be processed as debit cards).  In other words, there’s now an extra step.  You’d have to buy a VISA gift card (that has a PIN), go to a Target store in person, and then load the REDCard (and likely have to “split tender” the transaction).  More on this at ThriftyTraveler.com.  Also, FrequentMiler has an excellent site on how to find a REDCard as not all states have them.  For most people, it’s probably too much work.  But if you’re a stay-at-home mom who goes to Target regularly for baby stuff, anyway, this is worth the extra ten minutes.

Only Skin Deep?

I have a confession: since I’ve had Max (a little over eight months ago), I’ve not been wearing sunscreen (or makeup, for that matter).  The reason?  I don’t want to expose my baby to harmful chemicals.  Of course, the chemicals in question aren’t harmful to me but with Max being so young, I don’t want to take any chances of his skin absorbing anything that could have adverse effects on his health.  And so my quest for more “natural” skincare begins…

Nest

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Although I’m still in recovery mode from the pregnancy, I’m also in 100% nesting mode for the new house.  And, yes, I have become a full-fledged linen snob.

For starters, I’ve realized that you do get what you pay for in terms of quality when it comes to things like towels and bed sheets.  With that said, I’m still very much a value shopper.  Since our current bed sheets are on their last leg, I decided to invest in some Frette linens (used at the Ritz and Four Seasons in Paris).  One Kings Lane has some fabulous deals on the brand.  I also purchased a couple Frette bath mats for $19 each (not bad for thick Egyptian cotton, eh?).  Goal:  to create a spa/hotel-like feel for the bedrooms and bathrooms in our new home.

Labor & Delivery Tips

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Maxwell was born last Tuesday, 12/30, at 6:50PM.  I never thought I would experience a love that rivaled that of the one I feel for D.  It is quite a powerful thing.

My labor was a difficult one.  My water broke on Monday, 12/29, at 2:30AM and we didn’t go to the hospital until about thirteen hours later.  Pumped with enough drugs to be a walking pharmacy (Pitocin, epidural, penicillin–just to name a few), I finally consented to having an emergency C-section after three and a half hours of pushing as I was unable to get Maxwell though my pelvic bone.  Tears of joy streamed down my face when I heard his first cries.

Up to that day, I’ve read countless blogs and received lots of advice from friends on labor/delivery/hospital tips.  With that said, I thought I would offer tips from my own experience to help others:

(1)  Pack light–This is contrary to what many advise but I found that we actually overpacked my labor and delivery bag. My suggestion would be to bring the following:  two sets of clothes for you and your partner, one set of going home clothes for the baby, a small space heater (hospitals are notorious for thermostat breakdowns), phone and charger, disposable/shower shoes for you and your partner, one set of travel-sized toiletries,  wallet, driver’s licenses/IDs, and a case of bottled water.  Everything else (including newborn diapers, swaddle blankets, burp clothes, sanitary pads, and disposable underwear) is provided by the hospital.  Our hospital even had free room service so hot food was always available on demand.

(2)  Drink lots of fluids–Hence, the case of bottled water.  In my case, I was pumped with so many drugs that I needed to flush my system out.  Drinking lots of fluids (staying hydrated also helps with your milk coming in as well as keeping headaches at bay).

(3)  Leave the diapers, take the pads and underwear–A couple friends recommended that I take as many newborn diapers from the hospital as I could as they would add to our collection at home.  I discovered that this did not bode well for us as Maxwell outgrew his hospital diapers just a couple days of our discharge (and there were leaks galore).  Luckily, I also brought home from the hospital medical-grade sanitary pads and disposable gauze underwear (should have brought home more) which continue to be LIFESAVERS.  Both save on time and effort on laundry and provide more than adequate coverage.

(4)   Don’t skip meals but eat light–Nausea and pain may deter you from having three square meals a day but force yourself to eat light (having something in your stomach also helps curb the nausea while providing some nutrition for your body and, if you’re breast-feeding, your baby).

(5)  Don’t stress over your new body weight/image–In the coming weeks, you will shed lots of weight and inches just by having given birth, going to the bathroom, and moving around (and improving circulation and digestion).  It took you nine months to gain all the baby weight.  Give yourself nine months to lose it all (you may even surprise yourself).  I say this because women (and men) who rush and/or lose lots of weight during a short period of time do damage to their bodies (both internally and externally).  In other words, you don’t want to wreak havoc on your organs, digestion, metabolism, and, at the same time, have lots of loose skin to show for it.

(6)  It’s the little things–Do little things that make yourself feel pretty.  Indulge in your favorite perfume, shampoo, aromatherapy, etc.  Get a manicure/pedicure.  Style your hair.  Sometimes, it’s all about the small things in life.

Home Sweet Home

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Still no baby, yet.  I’ve been quite anxious because I really don’t want to get medically induced (as of now, I’ll be induced on New Year’s Day).  *SIGH*  So, in the meantime, I’ve been nesting like crazy and picking up things to create a zen (or spa)-like environment for the home.  My favorite acquisitions have been Nordstrom’s hydrocotton towels (which are currently 20% off, by the way), Aveda’s eucalyptus oil, and Deneve’s electric diffuser.

In addition to getting home stuff (for the current and new house), I’ve also been doing some cleaning out.  Locked out of my eBay account for several months because I had forgotten my password (and was unable to reset it because all of my phone and address info was out of date), I finally remembered it today.  It just came to me–like magic.  So, I took the opportunity to list a few items for sale.  All of these things are from my stockbroker days (when the job required me to dress to the nines–like they say, “Always Be Closing”).  Needless to say, being pregnant and a soon-to-be-stay-at-home-mom doesn’t and won’t require as snazzy of a uniform.

People are always talking about post-partum depression.  Don’t know about that but I’ve been feeling some “pre-partum” depression (if you can call it that)–meaning, I’ve been getting panic and anxiety attacks and melancholia about the health of the baby and/or the thought of not having D by my side at all times.  And then I’ll break out in tears just feeling incredibly grateful for having D in my life and finally knowing what true love really is (I know, it’s sappy but I’ve always been a sentimental person).  Perhaps it’s the raging hormones inside me but one thing’s for sure–I don’t think I’d make it through this pregnancy if it weren’t for D.