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Labor & Delivery Tips

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Maxwell was born last Tuesday, 12/30, at 6:50PM.  I never thought I would experience a love that rivaled that of the one I feel for D.  It is quite a powerful thing.

My labor was a difficult one.  My water broke on Monday, 12/29, at 2:30AM and we didn’t go to the hospital until about thirteen hours later.  Pumped with enough drugs to be a walking pharmacy (Pitocin, epidural, penicillin–just to name a few), I finally consented to having an emergency C-section after three and a half hours of pushing as I was unable to get Maxwell though my pelvic bone.  Tears of joy streamed down my face when I heard his first cries.

Up to that day, I’ve read countless blogs and received lots of advice from friends on labor/delivery/hospital tips.  With that said, I thought I would offer tips from my own experience to help others:

(1)  Pack light–This is contrary to what many advise but I found that we actually overpacked my labor and delivery bag. My suggestion would be to bring the following:  two sets of clothes for you and your partner, one set of going home clothes for the baby, a small space heater (hospitals are notorious for thermostat breakdowns), phone and charger, disposable/shower shoes for you and your partner, one set of travel-sized toiletries,  wallet, driver’s licenses/IDs, and a case of bottled water.  Everything else (including newborn diapers, swaddle blankets, burp clothes, sanitary pads, and disposable underwear) is provided by the hospital.  Our hospital even had free room service so hot food was always available on demand.

(2)  Drink lots of fluids–Hence, the case of bottled water.  In my case, I was pumped with so many drugs that I needed to flush my system out.  Drinking lots of fluids (staying hydrated also helps with your milk coming in as well as keeping headaches at bay).

(3)  Leave the diapers, take the pads and underwear–A couple friends recommended that I take as many newborn diapers from the hospital as I could as they would add to our collection at home.  I discovered that this did not bode well for us as Maxwell outgrew his hospital diapers just a couple days of our discharge (and there were leaks galore).  Luckily, I also brought home from the hospital medical-grade sanitary pads and disposable gauze underwear (should have brought home more) which continue to be LIFESAVERS.  Both save on time and effort on laundry and provide more than adequate coverage.

(4)   Don’t skip meals but eat light–Nausea and pain may deter you from having three square meals a day but force yourself to eat light (having something in your stomach also helps curb the nausea while providing some nutrition for your body and, if you’re breast-feeding, your baby).

(5)  Don’t stress over your new body weight/image–In the coming weeks, you will shed lots of weight and inches just by having given birth, going to the bathroom, and moving around (and improving circulation and digestion).  It took you nine months to gain all the baby weight.  Give yourself nine months to lose it all (you may even surprise yourself).  I say this because women (and men) who rush and/or lose lots of weight during a short period of time do damage to their bodies (both internally and externally).  In other words, you don’t want to wreak havoc on your organs, digestion, metabolism, and, at the same time, have lots of loose skin to show for it.

(6)  It’s the little things–Do little things that make yourself feel pretty.  Indulge in your favorite perfume, shampoo, aromatherapy, etc.  Get a manicure/pedicure.  Style your hair.  Sometimes, it’s all about the small things in life.

Preggers

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Yes, it has been a while since I’ve written.  But I have a very good excuse–we are now officially pregnant (at 16 weeks in the second trimester) and I have been very sick as of late (first with fever and then kidney infection) and we wanted to make sure the baby was okay before announcing the pregnancy.  Where do I begin…

For starters, the first trimester was no fun.  Whoever referred to the “glow” you get from being pregnant was lying.  There is no glow.  Just plenty of acne, nausea, fatigue, heartburn, gas, and acid reflux.  Every day.  I was going through all that plus being ill (and taking antibiotics) plus worrying about whether we were going to have a miscarriage.  Plus, wanting to write in this blog but, at the same time, not wanting to hide the small detail that we’re pregnant.  Every day.

Then, we moved into a larger place (for obvious reasons).  The move, although exciting, was also quite stressful.  We are finally getting settled in and the place still looks like a warehouse.  We live in Box City.

Now that we’re in the second trimester, I’m starting to show.  And feel (and look) about as sexy as a hippo in a thong.  Nothing fits me comfortably, anymore, except for my empire waist/elastic band maxi and sun dresses (which turned out to be great investments, after all).  The question is now, “What the hell will I wear during the fall and winter (that will be as comfortable)?”  Thankfully, the symptoms above have subsided (guess that’s why they call the second trimester “the honeymoon period” of pregnancy), although I still get occasional nausea.  As for food, I have turned into a one-woman demolition derby, eating at any and all hours of the day (and night).  Cravings have been the usual childhood favorites (grilled cheese with tomato soup, school cafeteria pizza, spaghetti with meat sauce, vanilla ice cream that comes in the little plastic cups, etc.) as well as certain fruits, veggies, and meat (especially beef).

As many of you know, I have taken a hiatus from my fashion blog and personal shopping business to focus on my health and carrying this baby to term.  With that said, I made a discovery that every pregnant woman (or non-pregnant woman whose weight fluctuates often) should know about–Cake Lingerie.  The material is amazing (actually stretches with your body).

Mom is in town for a visit and will be cooking some favorite Chinese dishes this evening (I have lots of favorites when it comes to food, as you can see).  More updates to come.