According to Penelope Trunk, women should focus on getting married before building a career: “this means that it may make sense for men to work full-speed ahead on their career in their early twenties, but women cannot afford that. Women need to make time in their lives to search for a mate in the same systematic, focused way that women have been searching for careers in their early twenties. And don’t tell yourself you’re waiting until you know yourself better. Getting to know yourself is a lifelong process, and after age twenty-five, waiting to get married won’t decrease your chance of divorce. The good news here is that a large body of research shows that you will gain more happiness by being married than by having a good job.” Good point. So much so that I posted the quote on my dating advice column site.
With respect to the general principle, I agree with her. However, I know for a fact that if I had subscribed to her views when I was 25, I would not have ended up with my Mr. Perfect.