Many of us have heard of the “Mommy Wars” (the opposing forces between working mothers and stay-at-home mothers). There is a wonderful article that sums it all up in New York Magazine. Admittedly, during my stock broker days, I used to look down on stay-at-home moms, looking at them with an air of superiority and thinking, “You couldn’t make it in the corporate world and this is why you’re at home.” How things have shifted. Funny how your opinions change when you’re in the situation yourself.
D and I have agreed that I would be a stay-at-home mother (at least until our child is school age). We think that it’s the best way for our situation and the way we want to raise our child. With that said, I still plan on working on AVIVA but just focusing more on the blog and advising people remotely instead of going on in-person shopping trips.
In addition to the above, I would also like to focus on writing more. Not just about day-to-day stuff like this entry but more creative writing. Stephen King has inspired me to release my inner fiction author.
Bring it on, Brave New World.
According to Penelope Trunk, women should focus on getting married before building a career: “this means that it may make sense for men to work full-speed ahead on their career in their early twenties, but women cannot afford that. Women need to make time in their lives to search for a mate in the same systematic, focused way that women have been searching for careers in their early twenties. And don’t tell yourself you’re waiting until you know yourself better. Getting to know yourself is a lifelong process, and after age twenty-five, waiting to get married won’t decrease your chance of divorce. The good news here is that a large body of research shows that you will gain more happiness by being married than by having a good job.” Good point. So much so that I posted the quote on my dating advice column site.
With respect to the general principle, I agree with her. However, I know for a fact that if I had subscribed to her views when I was 25, I would not have ended up with my Mr. Perfect.